Help! I have to plan for a wedding toast!

Jenny from Wake Forest wrote in to the site, I have to give a toast at my best friend’s wedding.  Kinda nervous.  Any advice you can give?

Being the center of attention can be nerve-racking for anyone, especially when it involves giving a toast. A wedding toast is a big moment. Just remember, your toast sets the tone for the wedding celebration. No big deal, right! Well, if you plan and really take the time to think about what you want to say, it can be a piece of cake.

First and foremost, always remember to personalize your toast! If you only read a poem wishing the couple happiness you will certainly hear crickets in the room. Most speeches should cover what they were like growing up, how much you admire them; share the times you’ve spent together, and what you wish for them. But, there is such a thing as getting too personal! For example, no matter how well you know the bride’s past, the only person she’s ever had eyes for is the groom!  So make sure to stay away from controversial topics just to get a laugh out of the crowd. I’m sure we have all heard a toast or two that made everyone feel uncomfortable, which is not the way to begin a reception!

If you’re toasting to the couple, be sure to toast to the couple.  For example, make sure not to leave the groom out if you are the maid of honor.  Overall, make sure your speech fits them perfectly, this is their special day!

If you have any other questions, please ask us!

  • Great article! Every best man in the world needs to read this before the wedding! Its a huge responsability to make the perfect toast but when the maid of honor and best man nail them, it really seems to set the mood for a great evening!