Wedding Etiquette Wednesday: I have an engagement party dilemma!

My fiance and I are very excited that my parents are planning an engagement party for us, but we do have one concern. They have already invited several people to the engagement party that we had not planned to invite to our wedding. Is there anything that we can do?

Unfortunately, if invitations have already been sent out for the engagement party you cannot un-invite the guests to the party, so there is nothing that can be done about that. Also, it is proper etiquette for someone to assume that they will be invited to the wedding if they receive an invitation to the engagement party, so keep that in mind.

However, before wedding festivities begin, like engagement parties or showers, you must have a conversation with both sets of parents regarding the size and style of the wedding that you want to have, so that everyone is on the same page. You want to make sure that you and your fiance express exactly how many guests each set of parents can invite, while taking into account the size of the reception venue and how many guests it can hold. If it is really important to you and your fiance that you have an intimate wedding with only close relatives and friends, you must make sure you tell your parents in the beginning before any planning begins.