Megan and Gina frequently joke about writing a book about all of the wonderful wedding stories they have compiled over the years. The release date is TBD (as well as the title, publisher, details, etc.) but we’ll keep you posted! From bridal meltdowns to disorderly guests and vendor disasters… we’ve got enough chapter titles to have multiple volumes. One chapter will most definitely be dedicated to bridesmaids: the good, the bad, and worst of all, the selfish. If your friend is getting married and you are lucky enough to be standing by her side on the most important day of her life… then we’ve got some six simple tips for you!
- The best thing you can give your friend the bride is a positive attitude and a go-with-the-flow mentality! A selfless bridesmaid can really be a godsend for a bride who may be feeling nervous or anxious leading up to her wedding day. If she wants to eat Chick-Fil-A and watch Netflix while getting ready, don’t pitch a fit. If things don’t go according to schedule, stay calm and help in any way you can. Maybe it’s running an errand for her, maybe its holding her dress while she dashes to the bathroom, just remember…it’s the BRIDES day, not yours!
- Think bachelorette parties and bridal showers! Inspire the planner in you by helping create these bridal events—just remember that the focus should be on what the bride wants and envisions. The element of surprise is great, but only if it falls in line with the bride’s style and taste! Whether you are the Maid of Honor or just one bridesmaid of the bunch, do your part to help pitch in for these events.
- Attend all the prenuptial events the bride asks of you! From dress shopping to cake tasting or even the bridal shower her out of town future-mother-in-law insists on throwing, be wherever she asks you to be! If she is important to you, and you are important to her, that event is important to you!
- Be responsible for yourself! Order your dress with ample time; get the alterations, the right accessories, etc. While this is the bride’s happiest time of her life, it can also be very stressful and overwhelming. You do not want to be the bridesmaid she feels that she constantly needs to check up on—taking responsibility can ease stress for both you and her!
- This one should definitely be a given, but another major duty of a bridesmaid is to help calm the bride’s nerves! Whether its blaring her favorite playlist, or telling old stories, whatever atmosphere keeps your bride calm and collected, your job is to help create that!
- Lastly, as planners we would be doing you an injustice if we overlooked telling you not to take on projects or responsibilities that overwhelm you or that could strain your relationship with the bride. Even if you are the Pinterest-Queen or have read every bridal magazine since you were ten, responsibilities such as creating a detailed timeline or handling vendors and venue operations are outside of normal bridesmaid duties. Weddings are supposed to bring together friends and family in a beautiful celebration of marriage between two people—focus on embracing this celebration with a positive attitude and leave the planning to the professionals…us 🙂